The Church of Sex

By David Kupelian


Warning: The following column contains sexually explicit language.

There’s a new form of Christianity sweeping the U.S. Its main focus: sex.

Don’t be surprised. We already have a Christian denomination catering to every other worldview, comfort zone and obsession, so why not sex? As I said in “The Marketing of Evil”:

“No matter what kind of person you are, a form of Christianity has evolved just for you. There’s a politically liberal Christianity and a politically conservative Christianity. There’s an acutely activist Christianity and an utterly apolitical Christianity, a Christianity that holds up a high standard of ethical behavior and service, and a Christianity for which both personal ethics and good works are irrelevant. There’s a raucous, intensely emotional Christianity drenched in high-voltage music, and there’s a quiet, contemplative Christianity. There’s a loving Christianity and a hateful, racist Christianity, a Christianity that honors Jews as God’s chosen people and a Christianity that maligns Jews as Satan’s children.”

So, it was just a matter of time before we got a version of Christianity for people obsessed with sex.

And while there is a surprising number of preachers, teachers and Christian websites today whose main focus is sex, the most prominent is Mark Driscoll, founding pastor of the wildly popular Seattle mega-church Mars Hill Church. According to Mars Hill’s website, Driscoll’s mostly youthful flock has grown from a handful of people in a home Bible study to over 19,000 people meeting across 14 locations in four states.

“One of the world’s most-downloaded and quoted pastors,” says Driscoll’s official bio, “his audience – fans and critics alike – spans the theological and cultural left and right. He was also named one of the ’25 Most Influential Pastors of the Past 25 Years’ by Preaching magazine, and his sermons are consistently No. 1 on iTunes each week for Religion & Spirituality with over 10 million of downloads each year.”

By the way, as runner-up for top mega-church pastor in “The Church of Sex,” I’d nominate Ed Young, senior pastor of Dallas-based Fellowship Church, who recently staged “a 24-hour bed-in with his wife atop his church,” a stunt designed to publicize his just-released New York Times best-seller, “Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy With Your Spouse.”

But back to Driscoll: I have nothing personal against this popular, hip, tough-talking young pastor in blue jeans, and I totally understand the appeal of his blunt, masculine, passionate style – a refreshing respite from all the stuffy, pretentious and cowardly pastors out there.

However, let’s just state the obvious: Mark Driscoll is utterly obsessed with sex.

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Real Marriage by Mark & Grace DriscollHere are some quotes from Mark & Grace Driscoll’s new book, Real Marriage, to give you a small sampling of some of the topics discussed in their book.

Warning: The following excerpts contain sexually explicit language.

In Song of Songs 2:3, the wife seemingly speaks of the delight she has in tasting his sweetness in her mouth as she performs [fellatio] on her husband, saying, “Like an apple tree among the trees of the woods, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down in his shade with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” One Bible commentator [Dillow, Solomon on Sex, 27] said of this text, “Fruit” is sometimes equated with the male genitals or with semen…

–Mark & Grace Driscoll, Real Marriage, 2012, pp. 185-186 (Thomas Neslon)

Yes, legally and biblically anal sex is permissible for a married couple, as Scripture does not forbid it…Anal sex within marriage is not sodomy, is not inherently sinful, and is permissible…More couples report some pleasure from anal stimulation with a lubricated finger…For the husband, the male prostate can only be accessed through the anus…it is reportedly a source of great pleasure when stroked by such thing’s as a wife’s finger.

–Ibid., pp. 187-188

[Menstrual sex] is only forbidden in the Old Testament and not in the New Testament…Therefore, it is no longer binding. This means it is not a sin and is permissible for a man to have intercourse with his wife during her menstrual cycle…For couples who enjoy frequent sex, it allows them to do so without taking a break each month.

–Ibid., pp. 189-191

Sex toys are legal, and they are also not forbidden in the Bible. Sex toys may be beneficial to a marriage. They can heighten the pleasure for one or both partners.

–Ibid., p. 193

It is legal to have cosmetic surgery. Furthermore, it is not forbidden in Scripture…Opinion polls across Europe point to a widening acceptance of cosmetic surgery as a part of normal life…[Cosmetic surgery] can make us more attractive to our spouses. And if our appearance is improved, we feel more comfortable being seen [nude] by our spouses, which can increase our freedom in lovemaking.

–Ibid., pp. 198-199

There are reasons that cybersex may be beneficial to your marriage. It allows a couple to remain in intimate contact throughout the course of a day when they are separated because of such things as work…

–Ibid., p. 200

This is just a small sampling of what is included on the pages of this new “Christian” book. Is it any wonder that our church is slowly starting to look and act more and more like the world? You may find some of the excerpts above outrageous, and we would agree. But we think it is important to warn people what is being taught to many Christians and in many Christian churches all in the name of “Christian freedom”. Lord God help us…


  1. Lisa Conlan

    These quotes are taken out of context to make the point. Driscoll’s sermons on these issues are real and biblical and Godly, believe it or not. Driscoll takes real life issues that real life people deal with and compares them to the Word of God.

    • The subject of this piece is his book, “Real Marriage,” not his sermons. Quotes from the book speak for themselves. Are you aware that the board of Acts 29, the organization that Driscoll founded, recently dismissed him? Lifeway books has also recently pulled all of his books. Do you believe their actions were wrong because of something “taken out of context”? There’s something much larger at issue with Driscoll and we pray he seeks the Lord.

  2. This is disturbing on every conceivable level. Men of God like John MacArthur say that the message of men like Mark Driscoll is only confusing if you believe they are saved. I may have to agree with him on this one. Failing that, they are wading in an extreme cess-pool of carnality which will carry its own penalty. This is tragic. This is your classic wolf in sheep’s clothing.

    • Driscoll is playing the roll of “shock jock preacher” desperate for attention. His desire to be “hip” has ruined any type of Christianity that even remotely resembles the New Testament.

      Unfortunately or fortunately, God will not tolerate this blasphemy. Just wait, one day you will read about what “happened” to this postmodern, new age, windbag.

      For he will be no more.

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